How to correct your wife without being abusive

Domestic violence is a big problem in the society as it has become so rampart, in every nook and cranny of the country. A lot of men have been seriously accused of beating their wife for minor issues that can be resolved without anyone getting hurt.  A day hardly passes without news of a man beating up his wife and some victims of the domestic violence who do not live to tell of their experience.

Meanwhile, there are indeed other ways that a person can pass across his message to his wife if she has offended him without being violent or abusive. When you show her the right way to handle things, be rest assured that next time she won’t do it, if only you do it correctly.

Below are few ways that as a husband you can correct your wife without
beating her.

1. If she refuses to cook, rather than get angry take the family out to lunch or dinner.  If you don’t know the reason for her refusal to cook, try to find out what the reason is. Most times, some women don’t cook because their husbands do not provide; in which case how do you expect her to cook when there is no money nor food stuff? But whatever the case is, make sure you communicate effectively and get to the root of the matter.

2. If your wife offends you by being rude or disrespectful, the best thing to do is just to leave her and go and stay in another part of the room. If you know that you are hot tempered, leave the house and go and relax somewhere, when you feel that you are calm you can then come back home.

3. Play with your children more often. You can go site-seeing with your children only; but this doesn’t mean you use the children against her in anyway. As tools but they are what you both share’ showing them more care than you do her would most likely touch a nerve and make her realize  she did  something wrong and therefore  definitely apologize in no time.

4. If your wife is constantly in the habit of getting on your nerves, rather than to raise your hands on her, call her for a talk. Tell her what she does that you don’t like and is upsetting you and make her know the earlier she takes heed the better your home will be. Forgive her if she becomes remorseful; no one is perfect. Do not forget that you also have your won faults and mistakes which she endures and overlook. As the man of the house, make sure you both understand and communicate with each other; you will have a happy home which will not experience any strife or rancour.

By Pupwaya Timothy Dibal