Letting go when it’s not working

Do you find yourself fighting all the time with your partner? Having different opinions on topics that matter to you? Not getting the attention you crave and deserve? Cheated on? Do you not communicate well with each other? Well, we could go on and on; but you get the gist. You know if your relationship is not working deep down inside there is no need to keep fighting. So how do you let it go so you can make room for the relationship you want? Ending a relationship can be incredibly difficult no matter how toxic it is. You will keep thinking of the time you have invested in it and all the sacrifices you have made for it to work.

If you find yourself feeling trapped in a relationship you know is not healthy, consider these tips for letting go of it for good:

1. Recognize the Problem

Recognizing the problems you are facing in your relationship will make you ask some certain questions and also take the necessary steps that are important. Take a good, hard, and objective look at your relationship and be honest with yourself.

Ask yourself these questions:

Is this relationship to my advantage?

Is this relationship negatively impacting other areas of my life?

Is this relationship detrimental to my self-esteem?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, consider ending it or talking to someone you trust will advice you on the right thing to do.

2. Create Separation

It can be hard to distance yourself from someone you are used to spending so much time with, but it is usually necessary if you want to move on from the relationship. This doesn’t mean you can’t maintain a friendship with your ex, but it’s usually best to allow some time for both parties to heal before you try to spend time together as friends.

3. Let Go of the Memories

It can be tempting to hang on to all the old relics of a past relationship. Doing so, however, may prevent you from moving on with your life. If you must keep the old love letters, the gifts and photos, its best you store them somewhere away from your reach until you are ready to move on.  

4. Focus on Empowering Yourself

Try your best to shift focus off the relationship and back to yourself. Consider trying new things or putting your energy into a hobby you have neglected. Empower yourself and tell yourself that you can do better without him or her in your life. Let go of what is hurting you so that you can give room doing things that will make you a happier and better person to yourself, the society and your loved ones.  

Work on your relationship with yourself, focus on cultivating self-love and respect. Remind yourself that you are worthy of love and that you deserve a healthy relationship.

5. Practice Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the key to happiness and also moving on. Release any feelings of guilt or regret you have surrounding the relationship. Forgive yourself and your former partner for anything that happened in the past because you can no longer change it. You can only move forward and learn from it. Let go of any resentment you have regarding the relationship because if you keep holding on to the grudges then you will only be hurting yourself. Look at your partner with compassion and empathy and understand that all humans are susceptible to mistakes and also all humans are not the same.

6. Live in the Present Moment

Life exists in the present moment. Choose to live in the present rather than getting lost in nostalgia. Often, people stay in a relationship that is no longer healthy because they are clinging to the past. They always have this notion that people will talk about them when they leave a relationship they have been in for a very long time. You just have to forget about people and live in the present for yourself and not for anyone.

7. Accept What Is

We must be able to accept things as they are if we want to move forward. Many people remain in relationships that are unhealthy hoping they can somehow change their partner. But what if the person is not will to change, you will keep hanging on and getting hurt. It is important to remember you cannot change anyone, especially if they have no willingness to change themselves. If the relationship isn’t working for you, then you have the choice to leave and move on because it is the only change you can make.

You only have one life to live, live it to the fullest and be happy. If something isn’t working well for you, make the change that you deserve and be happy. 

By Pupwaya Timothy Dibal 

Major Side Effects of Eating Too Many Pomegranates

Pomegranate is a delicious fruit that originated from Iran but is now cultivated in many regions of the world from September to February; and in the Southern Hemisphere, it gets cultivated from March to May respectively. Being a good source of many nutrients like vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, flavonoids, phytonutrients etc. it provides a number of health and beauty benefits.  However, it should be noted that overeating pomegranates is not good for our health, and there are also some side effects of eating too many pomegranates which is best known for its appealing colour and taste. It makes a good addition to salads and desserts, and its juice offers a healthy drinking option.

Some side effects of eating too many pomegranates include;

Effect of Enzymes: The enzymes present in pomegranate can hinder the functioning of certain enzymes present in the liver. If you are on any specific medication for liver disorders, consult your doctor before consuming this fruit or its juice.

High Sugar Content: Though it fights diabetes, pomegranate is a preventive food. If you are suffering from diabetes, stay away from pomegranate as it has high sugar content.

High Calories: If you are on a diet and are watching your calorie intake, then avoid taking this fruit or its juice. Pomegranate adds up calories to the plate. It can also cause weight gain.

Digestive Disorders: The excessive consumption of this fruit causes many disorders. Some of them are nausea, vomiting, abdominal pain and diarrhea. But, these symptoms usually subside after a few hours. Excessive consumption of pomegranate can also irritate the gastrointestinal tract.

Allergies: The consumption of this fruit also causes symptoms that can lead to allergy.

Benefits of Pomegranate:

Boosts Immune System: With the power to ward off bacteria and viruses, pomegranate is beneficial in boosting the immune system. It helps make the body stronger.

Lowers Cholesterol: Consuming pomegranate regularly can help control the bad cholesterol level in the body. This is because of the rich amount of antioxidants in it. The juice has the potential to oxidize the Low-density lipoprotein (LDL). It helps the heart work better.

Prevents Breast Cancer: Certain enzymes found in this fruit destroy the cells that cause breast cancer. Consuming pomegranate regularly can help prevent breast cancer.

Fight against Diabetes: Pomegranate lowers the blood sugar levels. It also flushes out toxins from the body. This is an effective and useful aspect for people suffering from diabetes.

Lowers Instances Of Heart Diseases: With cholesterol lowering effects, pomegranate helps the heart function better. Regular consumption of pomegranate also reduces the risk of heart failure, stroke and plaque buildup.

Protects Against Osteoarthritis: Pomegranate is beneficial as it slows down the process of deterioration of the cartilages around the bones. Regular use of this fruit can also prevent various bone diseases.

Rich Source of Various Minerals and Nutrients: Pomegranate is a rich source of Vitamin B, Vitamin C, carbohydrates and sugars, calcium, potassium, magnesium and iron. A single serving of pomegranate can provide a lot of nutrients in one go.

So now that you know the benefits and the side effects of pomegranates, be wise to use it in moderation and stay healthy.

By Mercy Kukah 

Tozali Top Brides 2017

Without a doubt, going shopping for your wedding dress can be very fun, but it is important to go prepared. It is crucial to make sure you walk away from your wedding dress appointment happy. I love going to weddings just to catch a glimpse of the bride in her breathtaking wedding dress. We may all agree that the bride is the center of attention because all eyes will be on her. From when she is entering the venue, to her flawless makeup, to her shoes, purse and her head gear or hairdo. There will always be side talks such as “wow I love her wedding gown and her jewellery “  or “I wish she should have use a more brighter colour or gotten a better wedding gown because this doesn’t fit her”. But all the same, I do firmly believe that wedding gowns work for your big day all year round. You can choose the colours for the time of year your wedding is taking place.

If you have been following the numerous weddings we have featured in our magazine, you will notice that each bride come with her own special style, or what you might call her own ''Swag''. Check out Tozali Top Brides of the year 2017 and their breathtaking attire that majestically revealed how stylish and creative some brides can be.

Aisha Pariya: This was the bride whose wedding brought two cities in a standstill-Abuja and Adamawa State. The sophistication of the ceremony which was graced by a lot of dignitaries, says a lot about the bride's taste and style. She displayed a personal style that could not be replicated by donning a modern look of peach colour iro and buba. The beautiful bride also rocked a dark green gown with detailing at the sleeves that flows to the ground for her dinner. Aisha Pariya’s third dress is just so spectacular. Her bridal train dress made of satin make the look of the bride festive and gorgeous. All her lovely dresses couldn’t be complete without her subtle makeup and lovely accessories. To crown it all, her lovely smile compliment her overall looks and I bet if anyone can pull of this look like she did. She made it to the Top of the list of Tozali 2017 brides.

Hauwa Musa Jalo: The classy wedding of Hauwa Musa Jalo took place in the lovely city of Gombe , Gombe State, and the wedding no doubt defined class and style. Her family spared no cost to make sure she had a fairy tale wedding. Her sophisticated and classy attires gave her a touch of unconstrained glamour that stood her out from a lot of brides. Her gorgeous look couldn’t be complete without her beautiful and flawless makeup done by Oshewa and it also looks like her jewelries were in a competition with her lovely henna design.  She made it the list of Top Tozali brides 2017.

Zarah Buhari Indimi: Zahra Buhari no doubt looked beautiful on her big day. She pulled off the monochrome look by appearing in all white there by taking style and elegance to another level. Her full-length veil attached from her head made her pulled it off beautifully to make the point that you can always push the boundaries to create your own unique style. We can’t also ignore her beautiful henna design and the simple accessories. Just as the simple adage goes “less means more”. So simple, yet so glamorous in every sense. She made is to the list of Tozali Top Brides 2017.

Maryam Abbas: Stunning and bold bride; you could not fault the tricky design of her wedding gown which defined her perfect body figure to the knees. Green and gold is a rare combination. The flower like designs on her gown appeared to be in competition with the gele and the one been slant on her side shoulder. The beautiful bride decided to finish off her look with simple accessories and a mild and flawless makeup. Undoubtedly, one cannot ignore the fact that this bride is one of the best dressed brides of Tozali.

Aisha Baba Ahmed: Her complete monochrome look was taken to another level. The bride knows that she was really looking beautiful and breathtaking and she wasn’t afraid to flaunt it. Every year designers offer different styles in the A-line with an elegant waist belt silhouette. They add various decorative elements to the dress. This can be proven with the lovely peach flow length gown she wore with a lot of blings on it. She stands out as of the most stylish and definitely made the list of Tozali Top bride of the year 2017.

Amne Kam-Salem: Now this bride took royalty to another level by appearing in gold from head to toe. Her lovely regal lapaya distinguished her from many brides. Her stylish henna design was also trying to compete with her makeup but one can tell that her makeup artist did justice by giving her sweet look. Amne’s wedding attracted a lot of style and class because the Shuwa-Arabs in Maiduguri are known to hold elaborate and expensive weddings .Although she appeared simple but she was a sight to behold. She made it to list of Tozali Top brides 2017.

Amina Suleiman: She is tall, beautiful and petite. One of the most refreshing wedding trends is "simple” and this bride proved it. Also, this season, sea green becomes a good alternative if you don’t like pink, blue or the popular purple. Her fitted gown was decorated with pearls and one cannot help but be left in awe of her lovely makeup and smile. The list of Tozali 2017 brides wouldn't have been complete without adding this gorgeous bride.

Zainab Sani Sadiq: Yellow is a bright colour that will capture the attention of people anywhere you go. The beautiful bride wore a lovely fabric with flowering details on top and she sews it into the beautiful and trending bell sleeves. One thing that stood her out from other brides is her simple buy yet flawless makeup and accessories. 

By Pupwaya Timothy Dibal 

Men with long ring fingers ignore traffic rules

Does your man drives a little too fast and doesn’t care much about traffic rules? Well, then take a close look at his ring finger. A new research has said that men with long ring fingers are more likely to drive too fast, overtake on dangerous roads and park illegally.
The study has indicated that bad driving may be programmed from birth because finger length is directly linked with exposure to the hormone testosterone in the womb. Many previous studies have shown that a long wedding ring finger compared to the index finger in men can have a powerful effect on health and behaviour.

According to researchers, it is linked with increased male aggression and risk-taking, it also means these men are better at sports such as athletics and football, more successful in business and may even be more fertile than those with shorter ring fingers.

Scientists also believe exposure to greater levels of testosterone in the womb affects the way the brain works later in life. It is believed that the hormone promotes more masculine behaviour. But it also seems to activate growth of the wedding ring finger by stimulating testosterone receptors in the bone.

In the current study, researchers at the University of Mainz, in Germany, recruited 77 male drivers at an average age of 38, who had their left hand scanned to measure the difference in length between the ring and index fingers. Later, they had to provide details of all driving offences within the previous five years. More than one third of the drivers reported having penalty points on their licenses, ranging from one to 20, for offences ranging from speeding to drink driving. The results showed that men with longer ring fingers were more likely to have offended the law. "A longer ring finger than index finger was related to more traffic violations. Hormone exposure in the womb might increase traffic violations in later life," the Telegraph quoted the researchers as saying in a report on their findings.

Source: www.topnews.com and www.dailymail.co.uk

Coffee can prevent eye damage

Your daily cup of coffee is brewing some soothing news for your eyes. According to food scientists, a daily cup of coffee can prevent eyesight deterioration and possible blindness from retinal degeneration due to glaucoma, aging and diabetes. "Raw coffee is just about one percent caffeine but it contains seven to nine percent chlorogenic acid - a strong antioxidant that prevents retinal degeneration in mice," said Chang Y Lee, a professor of food science at Cornell University. Coffee is the most popular drink in the world, and we understand what benefit we can get from that, he added. The retina is a thin tissue layer on the inside, back wall of the eye with millions of light-sensitive cells and other nerve cells that receive and organize visual information. It is also one of the most metabolically active tissues, demanding high levels of oxygen and making it prone to oxidative stress.

The lack of oxygen and production of free radicals leads to tissue damage and loss of sight. The study is "important in understanding functional foods; that is natural foods that provide beneficial health effects", Lee noted. Previous studies have shown that coffee also cuts the risk of such chronic diseases as Parkinson's, prostate cancer, diabetes, Alzheimer’s and age-related cognitive declines.

By Mercy Kukah 

Alhaji Nasiru Haladu Danu Weds Amne Kam-Salem

For Alhaji Nasiru Haladu Danu, 2017 will continue to be a memorable one for him. It was just in May that the royalty and nobility of the country came together to witness his turbaning as the Dan Amana Dutse of the Dutse Emirate in Jigawa State. While he was bestowed a noble title in May, in August, he was bestowed with love from lovely Miss Amne Kam Salem, who became his wife to love and to hold at an exquisite society wedding witnessed by the crème de la crème in the society.

In attendance at the International Conference Centre venue of the traditional engagement and Nikkah ceremony were eminent personalities like the country’s number two woman, H.E Dolapo Osinbajo,  the Ooni of Ife, Oba Adeyeye Enitan Ogunwusi,  APC National Chairman, Transport Minister Rotimi Amaechi, family, friends and well wishers all came out en mass to celebrate with the couple.

It was a convention of the Who’s Who in high society as captains of industry, politicians, socialites and celebrities stepped out in expensive convertibles bedecked in costly and glamorous outfits. In the midst of it all was the bride, who was looking all gorgeous and beautiful in all her wedding attires.

Tozali Crew were there to capture all the glitz and glamour of the wedding. Pictures speak more, so just flip through the glossy pages and enjoy. 

WUSHE WUSHE 

WEDDING FATIHA

RECEPTION