Sex an Uncomfortable topic

Sex can be an uncomfortable topic of discussion for both mother and daughter. There’s just something about the issue of sex that makes you feel awkward where your parents are concerned. You don’t like to discuss it with them and they don’t like to discuss it with you either. You have your reasons and they have theirs yet you each may have some questions and concerns you’d like to have answered and discussed, but no one has the nerve to intimate a conversation or invade one another’s silence on the subject.

Well, I’m about to break the silence. I’ve spent the last several months gathering information on sex from my mom and other moms. And honestly they have been open and honest about sharing what they want you to know about sex and exactly why they want you to know it.

My mom told me she was once a girl just like me and she once had unanswered questions about sex that her mother didn’t address either. In fact, in her days sex was less talked about than it is now. She said the reason mothers don’t openly discuss sex with their daughters is because it puts them in a compromising situation. They want to share with us what they’ve learnt but not necessarily how they’ve learnt it. Some of their experiences make them feel vulnerable, and they are afraid we will think less of them or take on the attitude.

The reason mothers are so overprotective is because they want to save you from making the same mistakes they made. I know you will say- “I’m not my mother, and just because she made bad choices doesn’t mean I will. True, but that doesn’t mean you won’t either, and perhaps someday you’ll be in your mother’s shoes teaching your kids what you learned from life’s experiences.

Moms aren’t the only ones who have something to say about sex. Dads do too it seems, however, that when it comes to boys, dating, and sex many fathers become shy discussing these things with their little girls. They remember all too well what it was like being a teenage boy, and as a result they become overprotective, trying to save you from what they knew at your age. It’s not that your dad doesn’t trust you; it’s that he doesn’t trust the guy who wants to date you.

I know it’s hard to talk to your parents about sex but put in mind that parents are people too. They have made mistakes and hopefully learned from them feel free to talk about sex with them. If they try to shy away from it, tell them its better you learn from them than learning outside the home. In that way you will get to make them talk to you freely. 

By Maimuna Bagudu