CHOOSE YOUR PARTNER WISELY: There are always lots of surprises when it comes to new love. It is really important to have a clear idea of the type of person you want to be with. It is not strange that we are attracted to people for different reasons. It might be that they are caring and supportive; or they shower us with gifts and make us feel important; it might even be that they remind us of memories from the past. Whatever may be the attention, evaluate a potential partner as you would a friend. That is, looking at their character, personality, the relationship between their words and actions, the kind of relationship they keep with others e.t.c
ACCEPT DIFFERENCES: It is not easy, but it is healthy, to accept that there are some things about our partners that will not change even with time. No matter how much we want them to. The secret here is, don’t try to change a person if he/she is not willing to. There is often an expectation that our partners will change in the ways that we want them to, but if it doesn’t go that way, there’s no need forcing it. It is important to note that managing your differences is the key to success in a relationship.
ALWAYS LISTEN: Sometimes, all it takes is for you to listen to your partner and avoid a whole lot of issues. Most times all your partner needs is for you to lend an ear. It does more good to listen before uttering your opinion. Other times, your partner wants you to actively give them advice. It is important to know which one your partner is looking for. You have to be a good listener, and this will further enhance your relationship in many ways, resolve differences and allow you explore each other’s personality towards better understanding.
LOYALTY: Being loyal means being respectful of your partner. It also means supporting your partner, even when you think he/she is practically at fault. But have you ever wondered why a lot of couples can’t stay in a relationship for too long? Well, it is important to put your partner first in your life as much as you possibly can. Make sure he/she knows that you will always be there for him/her. That does not mean that you will not keep other friends or people you talk to, or even have other commitments. But your partner should know they can always count on you, and you should also expect the same loyalty from them.
Following these few tricks, you can be sure of a maximum/healthy relationship in the New Year and beyond.
By Maimuna Bagudu