PRACTICING SELF-LOVE

 

Self-confidence is about trusting yourself and your abilities. For example, you can be confident in one area, such as cooking, dancing or communicating, but then insecure in another, such as dancing or public speaking.

Self-esteem, on the other hand, is about how you see yourself. It’s about your perception of your worth. No matter what happens on the outside, do you treat yourself with love, care, and respect or not?

Below are some of the most powerful ways I’ve discovered to do just that:

. Focus on being someone who loves.

If you’re in a place today where you don’t love yourself, it’s hard to take a quantum leap and become someone who does. Just like when you’re building muscles, self-love takes consistent practice.

Instead of loving yourself, focus on being someone who loves. That is, allow love to flow through you as often as possible. 

Focus on what you love about the people you meet. Focus on what you appreciate while going to the store, sitting in a meeting, or while speaking to someone. Simply, adjust your body to positive emotions by finding as many things to love and appreciate as possible.

. Tap into what it looks and feels like to be loved.

It’s easy to be loving toward ourselves when things go as planned, when we succeed and people like us. Not so much when stuff falls apart, we screw up or get rejected. When we struggle the most, that’s also when we tend to be hardest on ourselves.

In those moments, ask yourself what someone who loves you deeply you would act. What would they say? What would they do? How would they behave? Odds are, they wouldn’t criticize, judge, and berate you. They’d offer you kindness, compassion, and acceptance. If you can’t think about a specific person or memory, imagine how the most loving human on this planet would be toward you. Then practice being that toward yourself.

. Stop comparing yourself.

Comparison is a killer to self-love. And we aren’t usually very nice when it comes to comparisons,  Instead, we take our greatest flaws and compare them to someone else’s greatest success. In short, you’re doomed to fail.

Instead, realize that you write your story. Realize that you can’t compare your life to someone else’s because no matter how well you know them, you never know how they feel or how they perceive their life. Instead, spend your time and energy to nourish and build your path.

. Surround yourself with people you feel good with.

This is an important one! Always bear in mind that ‘you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Think about who those people currently are. Do they inspire, fill you up, and want what’s best for you?

Just because you’ve been friends doesn’t mean you need to keep spending time together. Just because you’re taking a break from someone, doesn’t mean you won’t be close again. Be picky about who you spend your time with don’t give it away in the spirit of mercy. That’s not nice, neither to you or the other person. Be there because you want to, otherwise, don’t.

BY STEPHANIE E. HEMEN

SHOWING YOUR PARTNER LOVE AND CARE ASIDE WORDS.

Figuring out how to show love to your partner  can be difficult. Every person is different. Some people like you to show through compliments. Other people enjoy gifts or meals. 

You don’t need fancy vacations or public declarations of adoration to make your bond rock solid. It’s not the big things that make a marriage or relationship great, but rather the random acts of kindness that follow the golden rule of relationships, do unto your partner as you would like your partner to do to you.

Perform Random Acts of Kindness

For some people, words are nice, but they go in one ear and out the other. While some people love hearing how much you love them, others don't get it until you put those words into actions. Sure, you probably do all sorts of things already, but if you've been together for a long time or you're new at relationships and don't know what to do yet, little actions can go a long way. Do random little things for him or her that you might apply to a stranger. 

Give hugs and kisses

Sometimes, all it takes to show your love is a whole lot of hugs and kisses. making your partner feel like the luckiest, person alive. 

Be Playful

Treat every moment with your partner as a first date. In other words, when you go out together, give yourselves all your attention. Make every time meaningful, and your partner will appreciate it more. If you've been together for a long time, you may not feel as playful as you used to. Remember the things you loved most about your partner and how you used to interact. Don't always let the goofy side hide behind the serious one as time goes on and also let your silly side out, too. 

Check on their loved ones.

Showing genuine care and concern for the important people in your partner’s life is a sure sign that you love your partner.

BY STEPHANIE E. HEMEN

FACE WASHING ROUTINES AND CLEANSER FOR ALL SKIN TYPE.

 

Cleansing your face is one of the most if not the most important steps in a proper daily skincare routine. It should be done first thing in the morning and right before bed at night. When it comes to choosing a cleanser, pick one that is appropriate for your skin type. Choosing the wrong cleanser can be just as bad for your skin as not cleansing at all!

If you have dry skin, avoid a cleanser that is too aggressive or that contains drying ingredients like soap – choose something that won’t strip the skin.

For oily skin, avoid anything too heavy that will sit on your skin or too stripping. Either of these options can increase oil production.

For sensitive skin, choose a gentle formula made with natural ingredients like peppermint. Look for something creamy to soothe and not strip sensitive skin.

If you have normal skin, you have the benefit of being able to choose a cleanser designed for any specific skincare concerns you may have. Combination skin gives you a wider range of options as well, though you’ll do best with something that clears away oil and grime without stripping your skin’s natural moisture.

Once you’ve chosen your cleanser, the next step is learning how to use it properly. Here are some simple tips for washing your face properly:

-If you like to double cleanse, you can start with a micellar water and a cotton pad to remove as much of your makeup as possible.

-Wet your face with lukewarm water and apply a small amount of cleanser to your fingertips.

-Rub your fingertips together to spread the cleanser then apply to your face, using circular motions to massage it into your skin.

-Massage the cleanser into your skin for at least 30 seconds for the best results then rinse with lukewarm to cool water.

-Pat your skin dry with a clean towel but do not rub or scrub.

-Apply your preferred skincare products in the following order: toner, serum, eye cream, acne spot treatment if needed, moisturizer, sunscreen.

Knowing how to properly wash your face is only part of the equation – you also need to choose the right cleanser. When shopping for any skincare product, it is important to know your skin type and to select a product formulated for that skin type, so you don’t make your skincare concerns worse.

 BY STEPHANIE E. HEMEN

Tarihin Game da mutanen Gbagyi, ainihin masu Abuja

 

 

Sanin komai game da al'adun asalin mazauna Babban Birnin Tarayya.

 'Yan Najeriya da yawa ba su san ainihin masu birnin taraiyya Abuja ba,watto mutanen Gbagyi, waɗanda aka ƙwace musu filaye daga gare su don kirkirar kujerar mulki.

 

Kabilar Gbagyi ko Gwari suna Wani wuri boyayyen a cikin ƙasan da ba a sani ba na Abuja, Babban Birnin Tarayyar Najeriya,'yan asalin, waɗanda su ne ainihin mazauna garin kafin ma a sassaka su su zama mazaunin iko.

 

A shekarar 1976, gwamnatin soji ta wancan lokacin tana da kyakkyawan tunani don nemo 'filin ba kowa' a tsakiyar yankin ƙasar, wanda babu wata ƙungiya da za ta iya da'awa, da kuma yankin da 'yan Najeriya za su iya haɗaka a ciki.

 

Sai dai filayen murabba'in kilomita 8,000 wanda babban birnin ya tsaya, wanda ya haɗa da Fadar Shugaban ƙasa, Majalisar Ƙasa ko majalisar dokoki, da dama na ma'aikatun gwamnatin tarayya da cibiyoyi, da unguwannin bayan gari da manyan kantuna, filin wani ne, Gbagyi.

 

Gwamnatin soji ta tursasa su cikin gaggawa daga filin su don yin hanyar gina sabon babban birnin, kuma sun yi alkawarin biyan diyya da sake tsugunar da su. Gwamnati ta kuma yi watsi da adadin mutanen Gbagyi da ke zaune a yankin yayin da suke ci gaba da shirin su na yankin.

 

An bai wa iyalai da yawa da suka rasa muhallansu gidaje, amma wasu sun zauna a sansanin masu wucewa da ƙauyuka na dogon lokaci kuma an lalata tsarin biyan diyya.

 

Yanzu, shekaru da yawa bayan haka, ƙabilun har yanzu suna jin cewa gwamnatin tarayya ta yi musu garambawul, kuma ta ƙwace musu filaye da abubuwan gado.

 

Koyaya, a cikin wannan labarin, za a ba da haske game da  al'adun mutanen Gbagyi.

 

Gbagyi ko Gwari (wanda kuma aka kira Gbari) mutane ne masu son zaman lafiya, masu aikin gona, masu fasaha da masu magana da harshen Nupoid da ke zaune a yankin Arewa-Tsakiya geo-political Najeriya. Galibi suna zaune ne a Jihohin Neja, Kaduna da Babban Birnin Tarayya. Ana kuma samun su a Jihohin Nasarawa da Kogi a yankin tsakiyar Najeriya. Gbagyi shine ƙabila mafi yawan jama'a kuma 'yan asali a Babban Birnin Tarayyar Najeriya, inda babban sana'arsu ita ce noma.

 

Bisa al'adar baka, wanda ya fara zama shi ne mafarauci wanda ya je farauta a ƙasar Paikokun, wani daji mai kauri a Abuja. Paikokun shine sunan dutsen inda mazaunin farko ya zauna.

 

Mutanen Gbagyi da farko sun kasance suna zaune a saman duwatsu saboda sun yi imanin sun fi aminci a kan dutsen fiye da a cikin fili kafin wayewar yamma ta sa yawancinsu su koma ƙauyen.

 

Yadda ake gane  Gbagyi

Musamman ga matan Gbagyi shine sanya kaya duk da nauyi a kafadarsu. Sun yi imanin kai yana wakiltar sarkin jikin gaba ɗaya, saboda haka, bai kamata a dame shi ba. Suna kiran ɓangaren jikinsu suna sanya kayansu a matsayin Bwapa. Sun kuma gaskata cewa anfi jin nauyi a kafadu fiye da kan . wannan al’adar Yana aiki sosai har izuwa yau.

 

Aure

Aure tsakanin mutanen Gbagyi yana cikin ɗabi'a mai zurfi. Lokacin da mutum ya bayyana sha’awarsa ga mace, dole ne ya yi hidimar shekaru 7 a gonar mahaifin amarya, yana aiki da samar da hatsi da sauran kayan amfanin gona zuwa gidan amaryar don ta samu isasshen abinci. A zamanin yau, ango kawai yana biyan farashin amarya maimakon ya yi hidimar shekaru 7 a gidan mahaifin amarya.

 

Addini

A cikin addininsu na gargajiya, wasu Gbayi sun yi imani da wani Allah da ake kira Shekwoi, wanda ke can kafin kakanninsu, amma kuma sun ba da kansu ga farantawa gumakan allah kamar Maigiro.

 

'Yan asalin ƙasar, babban addininsu shine Knunu, wanda suke ganin yana kare su daga sharrin da ke cikin al'umma. Suna bauta wa Knunu ta hanyar ba da tsuntsaye da giya a matsayin hadaya ga itace ta musamman da aka samu a cikin daji.

 

Bayan zuwan karatun Turai, Musulunci ya zama sananne a tsakanin mutane bayan jihadin Fulani, yayin da Ofishin Jakadancin Sudan, wanda aka fi sani da Cocin Evangelical  na Afirka ya gabatar da Kiristanci ga mutane. Mutanen Gbagyi sun sami sauƙin shiga addinin Musulunci fiye da Kiristanci saboda wasu ayyukan addinin Islama kamar ibada, amfani da layu da auren mata fiye da daya suma an yi su a cikin addinin su na asali.

 

Abinci

Mutanen Gwari suna jin daɗin cin abincin da aka sani da Wyizhe. An yi shi ne daga gero wacce kuma ake amfani da ita wajen yin abin sha na musamman da aka sani da suna Zhepwo. Mutanen Gwari kuma suna jin daɗin shan miyar  Knadolo wadda ake yi da daddawa.

 

Tufafi

Mutanen Gbagyi suna sanya kaya da aka rina na tie and dye kuma suna kiranshi  da Ajeside da yaransu, wanda aka yi da auduga na gida da saƙar gargajiya da rina.

 

Sana'a

Mutanen Gbagyi galibinsu manoma ne duk da cewa su ma sun kware wajen debo itace, yin tukwane, da kere kere.

 

Mutanen Gbagyi kuma sanannu ne ga fasahar zane musamman ma na tukwane. Sauran fasahohin da mutanen Gwari ke aiwatarwa sune sassaƙan gunmaka, makera, sana'ar hadda kwando.

By: Firdausi Musa Dantsoho

 

Efik: Tarihi, aure, abinci, da adini na wannan kyakkyawar ƙabilar

 

 

Yana da mahimmanci a bayyana anan cewa ban da mahaifarsu ta yanzu, mutanen Efik sun mamaye kudu maso yammacin Kamaru ciki har da Bakassi.

 Ya ɗauki mutanen Efik sama da shekaru ɗari biyar na yin ƙaura don zama a yankin gabar teku na Kudu maso Gabashin Najeriya, Jihar Cross River a karshe.

 

Kodayake ba a san ainihin asalin mutanen Efik ba amma tatsuniyoyin gargajiya sun nuna cewa sun yi baƙunci daga Nubia har izuwa Ghana sannan Arochukwu a Kudu maso Gabashin Najeriya.

 Ba a bayyana tsawon lokacin da hijirarsu ta kai su zuwa Arochukwu ba, amma abin da aka sani shi ne Efiks sun zauna cikin kwanciyar hankali a matsayin baki na kimanin shekaru dari hudu watto daga karni ta 11th - 15th tare da Aros.

 Daga basanni suka tafi bayan rashin jituwa ta shiga tsakanin su da mai masaukin su.

 

A lokacin kashi na biyu na hijirar su wanda ya sa suka bar Arochukwu, mafi yawan su sun tafi Uruan a jihar Akwa Ibom ta yanzu, yayin da wasu kalilan suka tafi Eniong da yankunan da ke kusa da shi.

 Kuma kamar yadda kakanninsu suka yi a Arochukwu, sun zauna lafiya a Uruan.

 Ko dayake,  sun sake ƙaura daga Uruan ba tare da tarihi ya gaya mana dalilin da ya sa ba. Kuma lokacin da suka yi hijirar, sun sami kansu cikin Ikpa Ene da Ndodihi.

 

Amma a wannan karon, ɗan gajeren zama ne da suka yi kafin su tsallaka zuwa makomarsu ta ƙarshe a Garin Creek (Esit Edik / Obio Oko).

 Garin Creek da kewayenta shine abin da ake kira Calabar a yau.

 Har izuwa shekara ta 1954 kafin ta sami 'yancin cin gashin kai, wannan yanki tsohon yanki ne na amana daga Jamhuriyar Kamaru wanda aka gudanar a matsayin wani yanki na Yankin Gabashin Najeriya.

 Sai bayan cin gashin kansu ne rabe -raben siyasa ya faru.

 

Gaba ɗaya, tarihin hijirar Efik da ƙauyuka da mazauna yana da matakai guda uku a jere; (a) lokacin Ibo (b) matakin Ibibio da (c) guguwar zuwa bakin teku.

 Kuma saboda wannan dalilin ne yanzu Efiks ke da alaƙa da Annang, Ibibio, Igbo, Oron, Biase, Akampkpa, Uruan, da Eket.

 

Al'adar aure a kabilar efik

Tsohuwar al'adar 'Dakin Kiba' watto fattening room a turance shine abu na farko da ke zuwa zuciya a duk lokacin da za a tattauna wannan batun (auren a kabilar Efik).

 Kodayake an inganta shi sosai a wannan zamanin na yau, al'adar ɗakin kiba  na mutanen Efik shine keɓaɓɓen horo da ake baiwa kuyangi don shiryasu zama mace.

 Watanni shida kafin yin aure, ana tura 'yan matan Efik zuwa ɗakin kiwo don a yi musu ado da tausa daga kai har zuwa yatsa; ciyar da su gwargwadon yadda suke so su ci, da kuma ilmantar da su kan zamantakewan aure.

 Ba’a  barin su, su yi wani aiki.

Maimakon haka za su ci abinci mai ɗimbin yawa, su yi taɗi mai ma'ana, su yi barci;  tare da yin masu tausa sau uku a kowani rana waɗa yin haka zai taimaka wajan fitar masu da siffar jikin iya mace mai kyau .

Domin mutanen Efik sunyi imanin cewa macen da siffar jikinta ya cika da lafiyayyen kugu tana da kyau.

 

Baya ga ayyukan matakin dakin kiba watto Fattening room wadda muka ambata a baya, yarinyar tana samun horo na cikin gida na kula da gida (kamar dafa abinci, kula da yara, da kula da gida) da yadda ake girmama mijin ta da iyalin sa.

 Hakkin tsofaffin mata ne su ba da shawara game da ƙwarewar da suka samu a aure don tabbatar da nasara.

 Har ila yau, a cikin horon akwai raye -raye na al'adu (Ekombi), almara, tatsuniyoyi, waƙoƙi da sauran nau'ikan nishaɗi. Hakanan ana koyar da dabarun zane -zane akan kwarya da sauran kaya.

 

A nan ne kuma ake koyar da ita game da jima’i da nufin ba wa mijinta isashen gamsuwa da ta dace.

 

A watanni shida na karshe, wanda kuma ya kawo ƙarshen kwanakin keɓewa, ana gayyatar mutane ko'ina don girmama nasarar da ta samu ta wuce wannan mawuyacin halin.

 

Ana yin wannan bikin tare da raye -raye na gargajiya na Efik (Ekombi) da sauran nau'ikan nishaɗi.

 

Ana ci gaba da gudanar da bikin a duk tsawon yini da dare yayin da iyalai, abokai da masu kyakkyawar fata ke bayyana farin cikinsu da farin ciki tare da kyaututtuka da gudummawa ga amarya.

 

Kuma a ƙarshe, ita da mijinta na za su rungume juna suna rawa; yayyin da suke maraba da masu yin masu fatan alheri da suka zo taya su murnan bikin.

 

Abincin gargajiya na Efik

Sakamakon abubuwan da ke nuna rarrabuwarsu, abincin Efik galibi waɗanda aka samo daga koguna ne.

 

Duk dangin Efik da ƙabilar su basa rabuwa da kogi ko rafi. Kuma saboda wannan, al'adun abinci mai gina jiki su ma yana da alaƙa da tekuna.

 

Dangane da al’adar Efik, ana ɗaukar Abassi a matsayin Babban Mahalicci. Kuma an san matarsa, Atai, a matsayin mai sasantawa.

An kuma yi imanin cewa Atai ce ta shawo kan Abassi ya kyale mutane biyu (namiji daya da mace daya), wanda kuma aka ce yayansu ne, su rayu a Duniya, amma ya hana su aiki ko haihuwa.

An bukaci yaran su koma sama tare da Abassi a duk lokacin da ya buga kararrawar abincin dare. An kafa waɗannan ƙa'idodin don kada mutanen Efik su wuce Abassi cikin hikima ko ƙarfi.

Amma kamar labarin annabiAdam na Littafi bible, yara sun yi rashin biyayya kuma Abassi bai kashe su kawai ba, Ya kuma la'ance su da hargitsi da mutuwa.

 

 

By: Firdausi Musa Dantsoho

Yadda zaku tsaftace kunnuwanku da kyau - a cewar likit

 

 

Bai kamata ku tsaftace kunnuwanku kwata  -kwata ba, kuma musamman ba tare da auduga cotton bud ba.

 Dattin Kunnen  yana da amfani kuma yakamata jikinku ya kawar da dattin  kuni idan yayyi  yawa ba tare da sa hannun ku ba.

 

Dokta Lee ya yi bayani: “Earwax hade ne na sebum - wani abu mai maiko da aka samo daga sinadarin sebaceous a cikin fata wanda ke rufe ramin kunne - da matattun sel fata wadanda ke ratsawa a wannan yankin.

 

“Dattin kunne yana da amfani saboda, tare da  gashi da ke cikin kunne, yana taimakawa hana ƙwayoyin cuta kamar bakteriya da ƙwayoyin cutan virus shiga cikin kunnen da haifar da  cutar kunni.

 

“Dattin kunne a zahiri yana  zubowa daga kunnuwan ku ba tare da kun sani ba.

 

"Yayyin da kuke magana, ku ci ko kuma  tauna abu, tsokokin kumatunku suna tausa  hankali , kuma a ƙarshe Dattin kunin ya  faɗi da sauƙi.

 

" ƙaramin adadin dattin na fadowa ne lokacin da muke wanka."

 

By: Firdausi Musa Dantsoho