Your kids are your lifeblood, and you will do
anything for them just to make them happy. You will even decide to go out of
your way to make sure that anything they want they will get it even if it means
sacrificing your last kobo. Well, my dear super-mom and dad, there are some
things you will have to stop doing for your kids if you want them to grow up to
be good, do things for themselves and also be able to stand up for themselves.
Here are five totally well-intentioned “helping” behaviours that might be doing
your kids more harm than good.
Cooking them whatever they want
You have spent the entire day making a healthy
vegetable soup with wheat or semovita, but when you sit down to eat, your
five-year-old demands indomie and egg. So, off you go to make it because
you don’t want him or her to cry. By
catering to his or her every demand, you are reinforcing bad habits and
limiting his or her ability to try new things. Instead, you can insist
that child eats what you have cooked or stays hungry. You will be surprise when
he or she will grab that place of food from your hand and start eating it. Or
if you have the time while cooking, you can prepare different kinds of food and
offer a couple of options at each meal (one of which is a known favourite) and
let your child pick from those.
Doing their homework
Everyone wants their kids to do well in school and
that is not a bad thing. And while helping your children with homework is a
completely normal part of parenting, a recent University of Texas study maintains that too much help may
result in more harm than good: That is if you keep doing it for your child. So
instead of staying up late meticulously colouring a solar system or even
helping the child to draw, allow your kids the space to succeed, and maybe even
fail, all on their own. This will make them to try and do it better next time.
Getting them dressed
Some parents won’t just stop dressing their child
even if that child has come of age. According to an American Academy of
Paediatrics spokeswoman who was interviewed, letting kids dress
themselves is a natural part of development, precisely because it allows them
to “assert authority and test limits.” Just take lots of pictures to torture
them with later when they are all grown up. The best thing to do as a parent is
that when they have finished dressing, check them out and see if they didn't
miss a button hole, or if they wore the right blouse for the right skirt.
Picking up their toys
Probably you have spent the whole day sweeping and
mopping the house, all thanks to your children. Then after the day is over and
they've gone to bed, you need another hour to pick up their toys and shoes
thrown all over the house. Children are messy, but it’s never too early to get
them involved in helping out. Letting them have control over their space will
teach them responsibility, gratitude and also give you a break. You don’t
have to make your five year old child wash the bathroom, but putting his or her
toys back in place will make a huge difference.
Fixing all of their problems
The toy-sharing politics among kids can be more
contentious than a Senate hearing. But as long as they aren’t getting physical,
letting your children work it out among themselves will build social skills and
give them a healthy dose of real life negotiating. That child you are over
pampering might turn out to be a great future leader. It's time to stop and let
your child grow up.
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