Mending a broken heart

Over time I have found out that people find it so hard to move on with their lives when that relationship is over. It is Nobody’s fault especially when true love is involved you tend to fight for what you feel. Emotions are hard to fight but when it comes to letting go, you have to really let it go. I know it hurts when you deeply love someone, giving your all and moving on at the same time is one big hell of a job. Heartbreak doesn’t just hurt, it often feels impossible. So many questions come along with the pain: How can I move on? How do I get through this? Will it ever get better?  Yes it will, anyone who comes out the other side of a breakup knows that. But if you’re currently in the trenches of a potent heartbreak, that’s not exactly comforting. I won’t sugarcoat it; the unfortunate truth is that having a broken heart sucks until it doesn’t.  Good thing is there really are things you can do to speed the mending of your broken heart and make it a little less painful in the meantime. When it comes to mysteries of the heart, it can be useful to cast a wide net. In that vein, below are some possible ways to heal a broken heart.

1. Avoid alcohol: when you break up with someone, you’ll feel shocked and properly in disbelief. The worst thing you can do to yourself is try and drown your emotions in alcohol for  you’ll only end up sobbing to people you don’t know or indulging on the crazy drunk- calling.

2. Don’t contact him: you’ll get hurt when you call him after the breakup and he doesn’t pick up. Delete his number and when you get that urge to call him, phone a friend instead period.

3. Give yourself some distractions: make new friends, create a playlist full of amazing and positive songs avoid emotional or draining movies and songs.

4. Unfriend him now: if you’re still friends on Facebook, Instagram and twitter get rid of him because his entire life is played out before you in beautiful Technicolor, seeing pictures of him will act as a misery trigger and you will always want to know which new female friends his going out with.

5. Don’t rush into another relationship just to feel good, trust me it doesn’t heal a broken heart overtime you will feel bad about it when things start getting ugly

6. Laugh and cry: laughter heals on many levels so does crying. It’s not a coincidence that you always feel better after a good cry there are many physiological reasons that contributes to the healing power of tears. So don’t hold back those tears because you just had heartbreak grab that Kleenex and cry your night away.

7. Create a new world: this is important if your world has collided with his, meaning that mutual friends who have seen him in the last week feel the need to tell you about it. Create your own self world- full of new friends who wouldn’t recognize him in a crowd and don’t know how to spell his name. Take this opportunity to try something new you’ve always wanted to do.

By Maimuna Bagudu.