Do you find
yourself fighting all the time with your partner? Having different opinions on
topics that matter to you? Not getting the attention you crave and deserve?
Cheated on? Do you not communicate well with each other? Well, we could go on
and on; but you get the gist. You know if your relationship is not working deep
down inside there is no need to keep fighting. So how do you let it go so you
can make room for the relationship you want? Ending a relationship can be incredibly difficult no matter how
toxic it is. You will keep thinking of the time you have invested in it and all
the sacrifices you have made for it to work.
If you find
yourself feeling trapped in a relationship you know is not healthy, consider
these tips for letting go of it for good:
1. Recognize the Problem
Recognizing
the problems you are facing in your relationship will make you ask some certain
questions and also take the necessary steps that are important. Take a good,
hard, and objective look at your relationship and be honest with yourself.
Ask yourself
these questions:
Is this
relationship to my advantage?
Is this
relationship negatively impacting other areas of my life?
Is this
relationship detrimental to my self-esteem?
If you
answered yes to any of these questions, consider ending it or talking to
someone you trust will advice you on the right thing to do.
2. Create Separation
It can be
hard to distance yourself from someone you are used to spending so much time
with, but it is usually necessary if you want to move on from the relationship.
This doesn’t mean you can’t maintain a friendship with
your ex, but it’s usually best to allow some time for both parties to heal
before you try to spend time together as friends.
3. Let Go of the Memories
It can be
tempting to hang on to all the old relics of a past relationship. Doing so,
however, may prevent you from moving on with your life. If you must keep the
old love letters, the gifts and photos, its best you store them somewhere away
from your reach until you are ready to move on.
4. Focus on Empowering Yourself
Try your
best to shift focus off the relationship and back to yourself. Consider trying
new things or putting your energy into a hobby you have neglected. Empower
yourself and tell yourself that you can do better without him or her in your
life. Let go of what is hurting you so that you can give room doing things that
will make you a happier and better person to yourself, the society and your
loved ones.
Work on your
relationship with yourself, focus on cultivating self-love and respect. Remind yourself that you are
worthy of love and that you deserve a healthy relationship.
5. Practice Forgiveness
Forgiveness
is the key to happiness and also moving on. Release any feelings of guilt
or regret you have surrounding the relationship. Forgive yourself and your former partner for anything
that happened in the past because you can no longer change it. You can only
move forward and learn from it. Let go of
any resentment you have regarding the relationship because if
you keep holding on to the grudges then you will only be hurting yourself. Look
at your partner with compassion and empathy and
understand that all humans are susceptible to mistakes and also all humans are
not the same.
6. Live in the Present Moment
Life exists
in the present moment. Choose to live in the present rather than getting lost
in nostalgia. Often, people stay in a relationship that is no longer healthy
because they are clinging to the past. They always have this notion that people
will talk about them when they leave a relationship they have been in for a
very long time. You just have to forget about people and live in the present
for yourself and not for anyone.
7. Accept What Is
We must be
able to accept things as they are if we want to move forward. Many people
remain in relationships that are unhealthy hoping they can somehow change their
partner. But what if the person is not will to change, you will keep hanging on
and getting hurt. It is important to remember you cannot change anyone,
especially if they have no willingness to change themselves. If the
relationship isn’t working for you, then you have the choice to leave and move
on because it is the only change you can make.
You only
have one life to live, live it to the fullest and be happy. If something isn’t
working well for you, make the change that you deserve and be happy.
By Pupwaya Timothy Dibal
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