How the sexes handle breakups differently

Love is a beautiful thing especially when you are with the right person. Some relationships are meant to last and lead to marriage, while some end within the blink of an eye. Most times when the breakups and heartbreaks happen, some people there are a good ways to handle the pain and there's a bad way to handle it. The belief is also seemingly propagated that women handle breakups better than men while some people are of the view that men handle breakups better. But all the same breakups are not something that one wish to experience or ever encounter. This article will state how women and men handle breakups in different ways.

1. Men have this belief that since they are men they shouldn’t be worried when they get dumped by a woman because if they show that they are heartbroken then they will be called weak. Some men after a breakup will call their friends so that they will hang out and have fun. Some will throw themselves into their social life instead of just staying at home and letting the pain show. Their way of handling the pain is to do anything that will blank it out. On the other hand, women get really sad and don't really care if it shows. They will feel frustrated; cry their eyes out, and feel the pain and anger of getting dumped and some might even be suicidal.

2. When woman experience heartbreak, all what she wants to do is for someone to give her a listening ear so that she will talk about the pain she is going through. Women want people around them to feel the pain they are going through, and also talk about what they feel they should have done differently so that the relationship would last. But what if the man wasn’t meant for you? Men on the other hand don't want to except when they are maybe drunk and extremely depressed. Men just seem to file everything to the recesses of their hearts. It usually takes time to get them actually consider and talk about what went wrong. This actually fits the narrative of men refusing to admit that they are hurt and in pain.

3. Women analyze everything and speak of things they could have done differently. They feel that maybe if they have shown the men more love or dress in a certain way they would not have been dumped. Men often live in denial when they get dumped so over-analyzing stuff hardly ever happens with them.

4. Women stay off dating and romance for a while. Some will run into the arms of another man because they want to get rid of the pain they are going through. While other women want to be sure they are properly healed before opening up again. They take their time because of the fear of getting hurt again. Men on the other hand can start another relationship so that they don’t think about their ex or even feel the pain they are going through. This doesn’t apply to all the men, as some men will stay off dating for a while just like women.

5. The belief is that women generally move on faster than men. Even though they look to move on before women, they actually nurse the hurt longer and don't take time to heal as women do. In the long run, when men eventually face the fact they are still hurt, the woman has already completed the cycle and has moved on far away from what the man is still grappling with.

By Pupwaya Timothy Dibal