Getting over
a relationship is no doubt one of the worst human experiences a person can
endure, especially when you both are love struck with each other. It’s tempting
to file your ex away in a distant corner of your mind where you don’t have to
think about them, but that attitude may be doing more harm than good. Taking
the time to actually think about your split may help you heal from the pain quicker.
There’s a saying that goes “when one door closes, another opens” but we often
look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one
which has opened for us. Breaking up is never really easy to do. But for some,
the process of getting over a failed relationship can stay a little longer than
for others. This brings about the loaded question; why can it be so difficult
to get over an ex?
• Cry hard:
its allowed to cry don’t deny yourself that. If you need to cry it out, do so.
Or better still go to the gym, get a punching Bag and punch out your anger.
• Cut off
contacts: never you try to be friends with your ex after your break up. Don’t
hang out with his buddies, don’t text him; don’t call him because the best way
to get over someone is to initiate a clear boundary. Defriend him on Facebook, UN
-follow him on twitter and stop going to same saloon with his sisters.
• Spend time
with your friends: now that he’s out of your life or she’s out of your life,
(this applies to exs of both gender) spend quality times with your friends.
Catch up with the people you may have neglected when you were madly in love.
• Don’t
analyse and regret: never have you analysed the play-by –play of your
relationship. Don’t get stuck in the “would haves” and “should haves” stop
looking for reasons and explanations and learn to accept it the way it is.
• Stay single
for a while: enjoy yourself by staying single for a while. The rebound
relationship is rarely successful even if your mind is telling you to bounce
back with someone new, choose to remain single until the edges of bitterness,
anger and sadness soften.
By Maimuna Bagudu
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