As parents, it is your duty to encourage your children to
follow their own paths and develop their abilities. That is one way to make
your child develop self-confidence. If you are always in the habit of stepping
in to help your children in every task, you will ruin their chances of
developing the skills and confidence required to navigate through life. Below
are some of the ways you might destroy your child's confidence and self esteem.
Do well to avoid to avoid them.
Trying to live their
life for them: Many
parents are in the habit of pushing their kids to be what they (parents) want
them to be, not minding if the child is happy about it. As parents, it is proper for you to wish your
children well and to want them to be successful, but if you try to live their
lives for them by forcing them into careers of your choice, instead of theirs,
you will end up destroying their self confidence.
Trying to do things
that they can do: Yes, it is good that you want to help your
child to grow up. But at some point you should allow your child to do it alone.
Don’t make that child to become totally dependent on you. Allow them to develop
their potentials and grow into wholesome adults.
Comparing them to
others: This is one
of the many things that will kill a child's confidence. It is very wrong of parents to compare their
child to someone else. For example, a father telling his son “James, can’t you
for once get a very good score in your maths like Ahmed”? Instantly the child
will start feeling bad. Parents who do this totally destroy every bit of
confidence their children may have. Never try to compare your child to
anyone.
Trying to speak for
them always: Some
parents are always in the habit of speaking up for their children even when
they are old enough to speak for themselves. These children can become
withdrawn and lose confidence in their ability to speak for themselves. Allow
your children to express themselves both in private and in public.
Always shouting at the
child: Shouting at
your children when helping them out with homework, or teaching them a skill can
kill their confidence. As a parent you have to be patient with your child. At
some point when you ask a question, they will be too scared to answer because
of your shouting habit. Always correct them with care and make them feel that
they can do it. But don’t over pamper them.
Help your children to develop confidence in themselves so
that they can survive in public without you. You might not know what they go
through in public when you are not around.
By: Pupwaya Timothy Dibal
My mother was always encouraged me to do what I loved. She was very supportive when I started being interested in fashion. When I started my own company, she was right there to help me. Now I’m always trying to be a good mother to my children same as my mother.
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