Qualities of a good Relationship
In every relationship there are ups and downs, people are
bound to get tired at some points and misunderstanding and quarrel set in. And while
some people are able to handle their issues and situations maturely, others
cannot. A lot of times we wonder what
makes other people’s relationship better and more fun than ours. This is
because those who make their relationships work also have their trouble times,
except that they know how to handle issues when well. People who handle their
relationships well tend to enjoy and have great bond with one another, than
those who do not. For any kind of relationship to survive, there must be total commitment
from both parties involved. Below are ways to know when you are in a good
relationship.
Misunderstandings are inevitable
In relationships of whatever kind, misunderstandings are
bound to set in. There is no relationship without a fight or quarrel. Misunderstandings
are bound to happen and are definitely going to happen. If you take your
partner's words one way, then learn they meant something totally different,
don't punish him or her. Let it go. Bringing it up all the time is only going
to bruise the relationship and cause communication problems later. Sometimes
what you say or do will be taken the wrong way, and you'll get frustrated that
your partner doesn't understand. Take a step back and realize it's not a big
deal. Misunderstandings only become problems if you let them grow bigger and
mean more in the scope of your relationship. Be understanding and forgive
misunderstandings.
Trust
Trust is one thing that is difficult to find in
relationships these days. You have to trust your partner. Why would you share
your life with someone when you think they're doing something wrong every time
you turn your back? If you don't trust your partner to be faithful, honest,
caring or anything else, then you're not in a good relationship. The best
relationships begin with a deep trust, and even if problems come up (which they
will), the trust is strong enough to keep you together.
Encourage growth and change in your
relationship
In a good relationship, both partners are encouraged to grow
and change. You have one life to live; therefore, you should explore it to the fullest. If you
want to try something new or go back to something old, you should find support
in your relationship. And you should give this support in return. Encourage
your partner to explore hobbies and interests and meet new people. If you want
your partner to stay the same, you're going to have a very boring life
together.
Let yourselves miss each other
You're in love, so you want to be together all the time!
It's so fun to cuddle all night and be together all day, but when will you have
time to experience different things? When you go to separate work places or
schools, you're experiencing things that will give you something to talk about
later. When you go out with your friends and your partner spends time with
theirs, then you're having time and space to yourself; then you’ll come back to
each other refreshed. You have a chance to miss each other, and it helps you to
really appreciate the value of your relationship. Missing someone is great
because getting to see the person after a period will give you some excitement
and happiness; it will help cement your relationship. This is applicable to
other kinds of relationships.
Admit your weaknesses
People should not expect you to be a superhero, and hopefully
you don't expect that of them! We're all humans; we all have flaws. It's OK to
let these show. In fact, to have a stable, serious relationship, you need to
let your weaknesses be known. Your partner will be more sensitive to things
that bother you, and can help build you up in areas where you need some help.
Sometimes
you can only accept things, not fix them
We all have baggage. You have some. And so does your partner. Can you go back and
erase all of this? Nope! You're stuck with it, and have to learn to deal with
it. Some things are easier to get over than others, but the reality is that
sometimes, you can't fix things. You can't make problems go away. You have to
accept it and get over it and move on, or else your relationship will crumble.
Whenever you have a fight, don't worry about who wins or who
loses. Learn from the fight; from what
was said as much as from how it was resolved. Once you learn from a fight, you
can apply that lesson to your relationship to avoid trouble later. Forgive your
partner! Forgive yourself. The fight is over, you're past it, now let it go.
Never hold anything against your partner or anybody, because the resentment
will build until you don't want to be with them.
Avoid unrealistic expectations
Don't expect people to read your mind, or your partner to
bring you breakfast in bed, or to offer to wash the dishes. It's not going to
happen. You can't expect your dreams from anyone; or expect anyone to be an
angel; to read your mind. You have to
make your desires known. If you want things done, communicate! Make sure your
partner knows what you expect from the relationship, as well as your opinions
on a wide variety of issues. This will help them act considerate towards you,
but don't expect too much!
One of the worst things you can do in a relationship is play
games. Don't tease your partner; don't "reward" good deeds with love
and affection. You have to make sure your partner always feels loved. You can
be happy with them or be mad at them, it doesn't matter; they just need to feel
loved. They need to know your feelings in the moment as well, don't get me
wrong. But make sure you're showing your feelings in a way they won't be
misunderstood.
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