Not long after you meet a person who you have great chemistry with, and have even gotten intimate, you start wondering whether this is true love or just lust. Well, for the most part, love is something that develops over time. The journey from the initial spark that attracted you to them to a deeply romantic sensation is a long one and is dictated by many factors. It is also important to be aware that how women show true love is slightly different from how men show true love.
love is an intense sensation of
affection towards another individual. It is an attraction that is profound,
caring, and leads to emotional attachment.
Lust, on the other hand, is a
strong physical desire to be intimate with the other person purely because of
physical attraction. Yet, under the right conditions, lost can sometimes turn
to love, This happens when the individuals involved are both willing to get
past the fantasy level and see each other for who they really are their
strengths and weaknesses. Nonetheless, at the early stages of a relationship,
it is easy to confuse the two.
Lust is the initial stage of
falling in love and is driven by desire. Our sex hormones play a major role
here and this stage could lust up to years. Here are some of the signs of being
in lust:
Your primary attraction towards
the object of your desire is based on their physical appearance.
An unending desire to have sex with them.
You do not engage in emotional conversations.
You are not friends.
If the above holds true for
you, it is okay and normal. However, you should be looking at how to find true
love.
Love is more than just a feeling.
This implies that it is hard to quantify or describe it. You know that you
are experiencing true love when you feel positive about the other
person. Therefore, you might not necessarily be head-over-heels in love with
them, but you wish them well, feel good when with them, and want to be with
them.
Another critical aspect of real love is that it continues even after they have hurt you deeply. This is because you are still committed to them in spite of their shortcomings.
YOU ARE CONNECTED EMOTIONALLY.
Even though being physically
attracted to someone is an integral part of love, if you aren’t attracted to
other attributes apart from that, then it is not real love.
YOU FEEL UNDERSTOOD
They listen to you moan about
your day or problems and are fully engaged to you as you talk. They understand
your perspective, offer theirs, and help you come up with a solution. And even
when they can’t solve the problem, they make you feel understood. THEY
WANT TO HANG OUT EVEN WHEN IT DOES NOT LEAD TO SEX
They are okay watching Netflix
with you and cuddle on the couch. You are there with them and that’s all that
matters.
YOU CAN talk ABOUT
YOUR PAST WITHOUT FEELING JUDGED
Sharing our pasts is difficult
for most of us. But if you are able to share the most embarrassing of details
with them without eliciting a negative reaction or vibe from them, then you
know they are deeply into you.
EVEN ON THE BAD DAYS
Not every day will be full of
sunshine and roses. And if they do not bail on you on such days or you on them
for that matter, you will know you have something strong.
YOU BOTH USE ‘WE’
People who are deeply in love
tend to include each other in their future plans. ‘We’ becomes more prevalent
than ‘I’ since you are committed to buildingand spending your lives with each
other.
MEETING FRIENDS ANDFAMILY
You want to introduce them to your loved ones, and they want to do the same as well. It is only natural.
This a feeling that needs to be there, If you need to ask what it is, then you are not in love. Butterflies in the stomach are a real thing.
YOU WANT TO BECOME A BETTER PERSON
You find yourself going out of
your way to do positive things for other people. It is because they make you
feel good and you want to pass on the positive vibes.
Love is a word that is thrown
around a lot. But not many people get to
experience true love in its pure nature. Just because you like someone and
enjoy their company does not mean you love them. However, with enough time and
after knowing them at a deeper level, you may find yourself in love.
Most importantly, you should know how to
find true love so that you know it when you see it, or feel it; love is
indescribable, but it is beautiful.
BY STEPHANIE E. HEMEN
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