RELATIONSHIP BREAKUP

WHAT IS A RELATIONSHIP BREAKUP?

A RELATIONSHIP BREAKUP IS A TERMINATION OF AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP BY ANY MEANS OTHER THAN DEATH. BREAKUP IS COMMONLY TERMED ‘’DUMPING” SOMEONE IN SLANG…

BREAKUP IN A RELATIONSHIP IS AN ACT THAT IS BEGIN INITIATED BY ONE PERSON IN THE RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU BREAK UP WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND, BOYFRIEND, HUSBAND OR WIFE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT PERSON ENDS. 

There are few things in life worse than getting your heart broken. Not only is it a supremely sad experience, there are all kinds of other emotions — anger, regret, bitterness, even happiness in some cases — that can be super confusing to sort through. But dealing with a slew of emotions isn’t the only thing that can be confusing post-breakup: Trying to navigate the world of dating after a break up can be tricky, especially if you’re worried about it being “too soon.” So, is there such a thing as too soon to start dating again after going through a breakup? 

“It heavily depends on how long you were in the relationship and how invested you were in your partner. “Some relationships are long gone before the initial breakup, therefore allowing the individual to heal while in the relationship, and move on as soon as they detach themselves from the ‘exclusive label.’

How can you tell if you’re really ready to move on and dive back into the dating pool after a bad breakup? ““It usually means you’re feeling brave enough to risk being brokenhearted. It’s normal to feel ready one day and not ready the next. I usually tell people not to give in to the fear. Sometimes we need to lean into the fear instead of allowing it to dictate the direction of our lives.”

After experiencing bad break up, it’s not uncommon to be afraid to start dating again, because it can feel like you’re signing yourself up to get hurt all over again in the future. But, while it might not be an easy road, if you want the reward (finding love again), you have to be wiling to take the risk of getting hurt again, too. 

There’s no two ways about it, breakups are rarely an enjoyable experience. Even if you’re breaking free from a particularly toxic partner, or when instigating the split is entirely your own move, from actually doing the deed (like a band aid is our best advice) to those first few weeks flying solo when all you’re trying to do is fight back the tears, quell the anger, or just get used to the fact that your person is no longer always there, breakups are pretty much always a rough ride. 

Research indicates that the real difference between a hard and an easy breakup actually lies in whether your partner ‘endorses you’ on the way out,” relationship expert. Explains

“For instance, our confidence is deeply affected when we receive a ‘character assassination’ of sorts by our former partner, or when our self-esteem is strongly aligned with how we feel our ex perceives us.”

The Worst Breakups Are The Most Personal 

We don’t mean personal as in you managed to do it face-to-face, rather than leaving a Post-It note. Rather, it’s largely agreed on by experts that the most damaging breakups come as a result of feeling that you’ve been rejected due to who you essentially are as a person.

BY STEPHANIE E. HEMEN