In present society,
dating or courtship (whichever concept that suits you) has become prevalent
that almost everyone is involved in it. From teenagers to adults, intimate
relationship is one topic that is always on our daily discussion menu. From
breakups to makeups, from engagement to weddings – the transition is simply
that fluid. Ordinarily, intimate relationship is supposed to be between two
consenting adults but that idea is almost an expired one. Today, boys and
girls, men and women are increasingly engaged in what is referred to as
“double-dating”. In this piece, we are going to explain the concept of
double-dating, the reason why many are engaged in it, benefits and the dangers
of such behaviour.
What is Relationship?
First, relationship
here means a connection of intimacy existing between two or more people which
usually involves romance. The involved individuals most depend on each other
for emotional, spiritual and material comfort. Many relationships often take
off with friendship, a date, courtship and possibly marriage. Marriage being
the highest form of relationship.
Double-dating
Dating period often
is a time when relationship is when the individuals assess each other's
suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The
concept of double-dating is a coinage that describes a situation where an
individual is involved in more than one relationship. This could mean multiple
dating as the case may be. In today’s society, even married individuals have
been alleged to be involved in multiple relationships. We therefore decided to
sort people’s opinions regarding the reason why double-dating has become
prevalent.
Why people
double-date
There are many
reasons why individuals engage in double-dating. As suggested by sampled
respondents, the reasons varies and almost the same for both gender.
Uncertain
Relationship (trust issue): there is the believe that many are unsure of the
commitment of their partner. Because of this, they often decide on what many
refer to as “back up” or “spare tyre” relationship. This in case of any
eventuality with the main person (break up), they will fall back on the back up
or spare partner.
Comparison of
Characters: Individuals usually look out for certain qualities in their
partners. They engage in double-dating to compare the characters of their
partner to be able to make appropriate decision.
Greed: Some are
simply greedy and materialistic. In order to satisfy their material cravings
they resort to double-dating.
Adventure: They are
those who like to have varied experiences in relationship. They want to a
“taste” of all of the sensation. This often involves risky behaviours.
Peer Pressure: Most
of the time, friends and colleagues influence their peers into unholy acts.
These friends will give reasons to justify why you should indulge in the act,
insisting that there will be no harm. Eventually, some succumb to the pressure,
especially when it is persistent.
There are many
other reasons as to why double-dating is prevalent, including economic, broken
family and infidelity. In all of these, double-dating cannot be justified as an
option.
It is however has expected consequences that are usually costly.these consequences are,
1. Transmission of
STIs: The major consequences of a sexual relationship that is affected by
double-dating is sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Having multiple sexual
partners exposes one to deadly diseases, as HIV/AIDS, gonorrhea, herpes, etc.
which are sexually transmitted diseases.
2. Infidelity:
Double-dating in a relationship brings with it the issue of infidelity. The
relationship is automatically bedeviled with distrust and if not handled
appropriately ends badly.
3. Violence: Once
infidelity creeps in as a result of distrust, the relationship may start
witnessing violence.
4. Divorce: In
marriages, double-dating results to distrust and maybe violence and ultimately
in divorce.
5. Emotional
trauma: The resultant effect of double-dating is depression. The after effect
of a broken relationship or marriage is a emotionally traumatic that could have
been blamed for some suicides.
The dangers of
double-dating cannot be exhausted. It is however scary that double-dating has
become almost an acceptable behaviour in our society. The need to apprehend it
becomes necessary now than even, hence every individual must re-evaluate our
behaviours to ensure that we do not jeopardize our relationships and lives.
By Maryam Islam
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